What Is Counselling, Really? Debunking Common Therapy Myths

Debunking Common Therapy Myths

If you’ve ever thought, “Counselling isn’t for me,” or “I don’t need to talk to a stranger about my feelings,” you’re not alone. These thoughts are often rooted in misunderstandings of what therapy actually is.

So let’s break it down — honestly and gently.

💬 Myth #1: “Therapy is only for people with serious problems.”

Truth: Counselling isn’t just for crises. In fact, many people come to therapy not because something is wrong, but because they want something more. More clarity, more connection, more self-understanding.

It’s like going to the gym, but for your emotional wellbeing.

🛋️ Myth #2: “All you do is talk about your childhood.”

Truth: While early experiences can shape us, therapy is about the present, too. Depending on the approach (like humanistic, CBT, or Gestalt), sessions might explore thoughts, feelings, patterns, or behaviours — past or present.

In integrative counselling, like the way I work, we tailor therapy to you.

🤐 Myth #3: “I won’t be able to open up.”

Truth: That’s okay. Counselling is a space where you don’t have to pretend. You can take your time. You don’t have to know how to begin. Silence is welcome. You’ll never be rushed.

Especially in LGBTQ+ communities, where trust and safety can be hard-won, it's okay if it takes time to feel safe.

🕵️ Myth #4: “The therapist gives you advice and tells you what to do.”

Truth: Counselling isn’t about being “fixed” or told how to live your life. It’s about discovering your own voice and truth — with someone beside you who listens deeply and without judgment.

Sometimes, just being truly heard is the most healing thing of all.

🌈 Myth #5: “I won’t be understood because of my gender identity, sexuality, or culture.”

Truth: This fear is real — and valid. Not all therapy spaces feel safe for LGBTQ+ folks or people from diverse backgrounds. That’s why finding a counsellor who gets it matters.

As someone LGBTQ+ identified myself, I offer a space that honours all parts of who you are — not just the ones you’ve had to make more “acceptable” for others.

🔍 So, What Is Counselling?

It’s a space that’s just for you.
It’s where you get to be human, messy, thoughtful, angry, joyful, confused, or all of the above.
It’s not about having the right words — it’s about showing up as you are.

🛠️ A Few Tips if You’re Considering Counselling:

• Shop around. It’s okay to meet a few counsellors before finding the right fit.

• Ask questions. You deserve to feel informed and empowered.

• Be gentle with yourself. Taking the first step is brave, and it counts.

Final Thoughts

Counselling isn’t about having it all figured out — it’s about giving yourself permission to start.

If you're curious about therapy, or want to explore how it might help you reconnect with yourself, I’d love to hold that space with you.

✨ You don’t have to do it all alone.